It’s not Me, it’s You!

First Published 28 July 2022

Sometimes they may leave you with a smile on your face, other times the comments may leave you feeling like you are wearing a storm cloud over your head for the whole day.
 
How dare they?  Even if they are ‘well intended’ these comments and opinions (yes, even the ‘positive’ ones) are actually nothing to do with you and everything to do with them!
 
We get to choose to be happy or sad, excited or angry, or whichever other emotion we want to feel in any given moment – it just takes a bit of practice, in pausing, digging in to what’s going on inside and then making that decision – based solely on you, and not that ‘well meaning’ person that you bumped in to.
 
I’d even go one step further and include any conversation you are having.  Notice if the mood of the other person in rubbing off on you… are they on a rampaging rant about something that bugged them, and you are being sucked into the rage?  That’s all well and good if that is where you want to be, but if it isn’t, you may be best to change the topic of conversation or even to walk away/hang up.

I know it is really easy to say that other people’s opinions are nothing to do with you/are none of your business, but it can be hard to remember when you are in the middle of it.  My suggestion is to take stock when you feel your emotions moving to the extremes, and question if it is you that is feeling this way or is it coming from someone else – and then choose if you want to stay there in that emotion or if you want to move to feeling differently.
 
But then, that’s just my opinion… and who am I to tell you what to do 😉
 
If you would like to work through your emotions without being told how you ‘should’ feel, you know how to reach me… and if you need a reminder, hit comment or contact, book a natter or just pick up the phone.