First published 11 April 2025

Put Your Oxygen Mask on First

This week, I’ve been pondering something that deeply resonates with the work we do together – the crucial importance of self-compassion. 

And it just so happens that this was the basis of the latest episode of Therapists in Conversation, “Compassion – Give Yourself a F***ing Break” where we articulated what so many of us struggle with: the constant sense of duty, the weight of others’ expectations, and the tendency to forget our own needs in the process.

How often over the last 5 years have we heard the phrase ‘put your oxygen mask on first’?  And I don’t just mean when we have been on an aeroplane…!  My question to you, though, is – do you actually take heed and look after yourself first?

The Duty Trap

It is all too easy to get caught up in the cycle of giving until there’s nothing left.

We push ourselves to meet every obligation, fulfil every responsibility, and maintain impossibly high standards – even if we are the ones who set those standards and are the only ones who care about them!

We convince ourselves that everything must be done “just right” – and that we’re the only ones who can do it.

But at what cost? When we continually ignore our own needs, we don’t just risk burnout – we guarantee it. And ironically, by depleting ourselves this way, we become less capable of showing up effectively for the very people we’re trying to help.

Self-Compassion Isn’t Selfish

There is a very good reason flight attendants instruct you to “put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others.”

It’s not selfish – it’s necessary.

You simply cannot pour from an empty cup.

True self-compassion means:

• Recognising when you need a break – and actually taking it
• Setting boundaries that honour your energy levels and capacity
• Treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a good friend (and let’s face it – there are times we don’t even offer ourselves the same kindness we offer the people we don’t like!)
• Understanding that caring for yourself enables you to better care for others

Your Permission Slip

If you’ve been waiting for someone to give you permission to prioritise yourself, consider this your official notice:

You have the right to respect your own needs.

You deserve compassion – especially from yourself.

You might surprise yourself and find that if you decided to put yourself first that your life will change. 

Think about how this self-compassion can and will affect your health, relationships, and overall well-being.  The transformation can be truly mind-boggling! 🤯

Ready to Put Yourself First?

If you’re ready to break free from the cycle of self-neglect and develop practical strategies for sustainable self-care, I’d love to help. My approach to Health Kinesiology is specifically designed to help you reconnect with your body’s wisdom and create balance that starts from within.

Book a Discovery Call this week to explore how we can work together to put you back at the centre of your own life.

Your future self will thank you for it.