First published 11 October 2023

Can your Inner Voice be your Best Friend?

Isn’t it funny where we get our inspiration from?

If you know anything about me, you probably know I read a LOT of books.  Some business and development but a lot of fiction.  My genre’s of choice range from Young Adult to spicy romance and a big range in between – and I am quite partial to the paranormal!

I sometimes wonder if I read so much to quieten my inner voice/intuition – and then I realise that no, I just enjoy escapism and TV currently doesn’t hold my interest.

But, what has this got to do with a your Inner Voice being your best friend?  Well, a book I read last week was discussing the inner voice in a way that I had not read before.

We typically hear about that voice being mean to us, telling us we aren’t good enough, berating us and, or, taking on the tone of a disapproving parent or authority figure or even a school ground bully.

But, this time the quote was about that voice being supportive.

Imagine having that voice be a trusted friend asking you to do things that are good for you, your development and your soul.

Imagine it only telling you things that are positive – with no internal criticism. 

Where the thoughts are action based for your betterment…

So, rather than silencing the inner voice, how about we become best friends?

Taking this well meaning voice and reminding ourselves that we are intuitive (more to come on this in the next few weeks as I am reading a book – yep, another one – for my advanced kinesiology training and have to do a presentation on it so I am sure part of that will reach you here soon!) beings and it pays to pay attention to it in a similar way to the way the animal world listens to theirs!

Our inner voice is always there for us (in what ever way we ‘hear’ it).  A lot of the time we don’t pay attention, we doubt it or, we don’t trust it and then override it with our ‘logical’ thinking.

It’s that whisper in our ear telling us which way to go.

It’s that feeling in our gut telling us to take a risk or to back away – we might even call it our ‘spidey sense’!

It is trying to guide us in the right direction.

When it turns negative and critical, it’s likely due to us having been conditioned to be hard on ourselves – but, we are good enough, we are worthy of love and happiness and we are smart, and kind, and wonderful.  So perhaps it is time to re condition ourselves and turn that inner room mate in to our biggest cheerleader?

But, how do we do that?

• start by paying attention.  Listen to your inner thoughts and self-talk. 
• if you catch yourself thinking negatively, challenge it (my favourite phrase when I catch myself doing it is ‘that might be true for other people but it doesn’t have to be true for me’).
• ask yourself if the thought is true – and be really critical rather than just accepting it – then, replace it with a positive thought.
• talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend – be supportive and encouraging.
• treat yourself the way you treat someone you are responsible for – whether that be a child, a partner or a pet.
• learn to trust your intuition (even if you have to start with baby steps).  If you have a feeling about something, go with it and see what happens
• take notes! yep, dust that journal off and get writing!

The more you listen and pay attention, the more you will be able to turn the negative in to a positive, the stronger your intuition will become, and the more you will trust yourself.

We all have the answers within our selves if only we listen and pay attention – and then take action.  At Inner Pathways, I am happy to help you work towards connecting to your inner wisdom and then start to take those actions that will move you towards the life you want.

So, what are you waiting for? Book in for a discovery call and we can discuss your current situation, any challenges you face and work on some strategies to help you tune in to find where you want to go.

What small action can you take today to start listening more closely to your inner voice?