First published 14 December 2025

Last month, on Therapists in Conversation, we talked about lighting the blue touch paper—that irreversible moment when you commit to transformation.

But there’s something that we aren’t warned enough about: holding steady after the firework show is over can be the real challenge.

In this month’s ‘Therapists in Conversation’ episode, we explored what happens when you return to familiar territory with your shiny new self.

Family gatherings…  Old friends…  Places where everyone expects you to be who you used to be… 

We come back ‘home’ from where ever we got these new perspectives from, and fall right in to the pressure to slip back into old patterns, and that pressure can be overwhelming. Here’s the thing: once real transformation has occurred, there’s no going back.

It’s like trying to put toothpaste back in the tube.

Once it’s out, it’s out.

You might try to squeeze it back in to keep the peace, but you’ll just make a mess.

And yet, so many of us attempt exactly that—folding ourselves back into old shapes, pretending we haven’t changed.

But at what cost?  What does that do to your sense of self, your self-worth, your authenticity?

In Health Kinesiology, we see this play out in the body’s energy systems.

When we clear blockages in your meridians, when we balance your chakras, we’re releasing what’s been compressed and confined.  Your energy wants to flow freely – it can’t be stuffed back into old patterns without creating new blockages, new tension, new dis-ease.

The struggle to hold steady often comes down to managing external noise.
When someone reacts negatively to your changes, it’s rarely about you.  It’s about their fear of losing the person they knew, their own expectations being disrupted.

You might finally show up on time, only to get grief for being early.
You set a boundary, and suddenly you’re “difficult”.
Where’s the incentive to keep changing when you’re given stick for it?

But here’s what I’ve learned in my practice: if you change only to pander to someone else’s needs, you sacrifice your own authenticity.

You end up treading water, and that’s exhausting (so you may just have to deal with my sense of time being different to yours 😉).

Holding steady means being consciously aware of what’s happening, managing your own expectations of what situations “should” be, and finding the pause.

That surge you feel when someone pushes back – that nervousness, that anxiety?

Physiologically, it’s the same as excitement. You get to choose the label.

You’re the one who has to live with you always.  And you can’t put the toothpaste back in the tube.

If you’re struggling to hold steady in your own transformation, I’m here to help. In our 1:1 sessions, we work with your body’s wisdom to strengthen what you’ve built and clear the resistance that keeps pulling you back.

Ready to hold steady? Book a discovery call and let’s talk. P.S. If you want more than just my summary, you can catch the full conversation in Episode 67 on YouTube now.

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